About
Love
Love,
as most of us know it, is an attachment to another person, an animal, or
even work or a hobby. People say they love doing this, they love
doing that, they love this person, they hate this person and so
on. Yet love in its highest spiritual form is not about any of
those things.
Love
in its highest form is unconditional love that flows from your High Self
to everyone: man, woman or child, black or white or some other colour,
good person or convicted murderer or rapist.
How
many of us could hold this unconditional flame of love in our heart for
murderers, those we disagree with, those we have divorced, separated or just plain
run away from? Not too many. And the reason why?
Because
at heart we are children, that is, on an emotional level we have a child
inside of us, and our child lives for and by the desires of the senses,
and the emotions.
Our little child loves to enjoy anything via the
physical senses of taste, touch, sight, smell and sound. Our
little child loves to be attached to people, things, animals or objects.
Say
hello to your Inner Child
And
our inner child can just as easily turn off that attachment.
If
you have ever seen the inside of a divorce court, you may know what I
mean. When attachment dries up, it can be difficult although not
impossible to renew it's flow.
What
do you value?
What
causes attachment to disappear? Many things. Mostly it is to
do with breaking boundaries of trust and respect. When you are in a
relationship, be it of a personal, friendship or business nature, it is essential to map out your values around trust,
respect, honesty and integrity.
You have to figure out exactly
what these values mean to you through the ways you can demonstrate these
values. Sometimes it's easier to figure out when a value has been
transgressed or broken, then it is to determine the exact boundaries
required of trust, respect, honesty and integrity in the first
place. However, that's when 'consequence' can be a serious teacher
and learning occurs after the event, as the value of hindsight kicks in.
What
are your boundaries?
Boundaries
are like fences. If a fence is very badly damaged, then whoever
lives inside the fence may not feel safe any more, and despite
rebuilding that fence, may not be able to feel completely safe unless
certain controls are put in place over other people, or him or herself.
Fences
can be mended, if the break is not too bad. And of course, this
may take time, precision work and dedication to the job at hand.
Most
couples don't take the time to understand what their personal boundaries
or fences consist of, let alone for their relationship. Do you
know what are the best boundaries and fences
for your relationship?
In
most relationships, boundaries take shape and often in an unspoken yet seemingly mutually agreed upon
process. Usually, it is not until consequences kick in, that you
can grasp what you would do differently, next time.
What
are your beliefs about relationships?
Do
you hold beliefs about your relationship? If you do, ask yourself
what values you hold dear to your heart and soul? Values will help
you to fathom what is important and what you will tolerate, whereas
beliefs are usually formed from experiences and those beliefs are held
onto rigidly, despite contradictory evidence.
Values
give us flexibility and allow us room to change our beliefs, so that our
values and beliefs end up being aligned and congruent together.
When
you need help to determine your values and what's most important to you,
just give me a call. In the meantime, remember to meditate on love
and you will come up with concepts and values as old as time itself.
Here's
to loving you and me, because you have to love yourself first in order
to accept love. And, here's to unconditional love - keep striving
for it and it may one day be yours.
Call now,
for any problems associated
with a broken heart.
Garden
Tip!
 Do
your roses get aphids? Aphids
can cause weak and mottled leaves with tiny white webs under them.
They can also destroy your flower buds.
Aphids are small
soft-bodied insects that are usually brown, green or red in
colour. The aphid sucks plant juices from tender buds and cause a
lot of damage.
Malathion or diazinon spray
may help roses to survive these bugs but so do natural garlic sprays and
elderberry sprays (either or, not together) and you can also plant
clover under the rose bush.
Don't spray in high
temperatures or high humidity, as the
heat can cause damage when the moisture evaporates and oils in the mix
can basically fry (it's called phytotoxic burn).
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