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Dear
Reader
Another
busy time flies by, as I catch up with gorgeous grandchildren, do some
ballroom dancing, and think about that book I am going to
write.
Recently, I heard Rachael Bermingham
who is the co-author of 4
Ingredients and several other books, speak at one of Terri Cooper's
Networking breakfasts. That is one inspiring lady who is an
absolute dynamo and puts me to shame in the productivity stakes. I
even got to taste-test some gluten free recipes which were great, and
they only had 4 ingredients!
So,
if you want inspiration and motivation, the key is to take action of
course. Action will help with self-esteem issues too so read on in
my article below.
Until
next month, Live Life 2 The Max! Narelle
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Self-Esteem:
to
hold yourself in high regard!
©
Narelle Stratford 2009
What
stops you from having high self-esteem now?
Let's see how many
boxes you tick:
-
I
compare myself to others and always fall short.
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I
tell myself any one or more of these:
"if my boyfriend hadn't left me, I'd be happy"
"if my mother would just accept me, I'd be happy"
"when I get my degree, I'll be happy"
"when I get this job, I'll be happy"
"when I get this finished, I'll be able to relax"
"when I go overseas I'll be stress-free"
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Your
turn, fill in the blanks:
"when I ....................... I'll be
......................"
"if .............................., I'd be
....................."
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Rather
than wait for negative or critical feedback from others, I freely
and often give it to myself:
"I'm such an idiot"
"I hate myself"
"I'm so dumb who would want to hire me?"
"I'll never get a boyfriend, I'm pretty boring"
"I'm such a loser, no girl would date me"
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Not
content with that, have you ever delivered yourself the ultimate
blow:
"Why was I born?"
"I hate myself"
"I wish I was dead"
If
you are living with the negative impact of these defeating thoughts and
feelings, you cannot feel good because your inner child, your
subconscious, your child within (whatever you call him or her) will feel
miserable in response and of course your self-esteem will plummet.
Simply,
if
you stop yourself comparing yourself with others and realise it is okay
to just be, that your worth is not dependant on what you do, but just on
being yourself, you are a step closer to feeling good about yourself.
If
you can value your own opinion and hold fast to yourself and treat
yourself with respect, you will be another step closer to higher
self-regard.
When
you validate yourself, appreciate yourself and care enough about
yourself to do the right thing for yourself, you will be showing
practical love and affection for yourself... and
your self-esteem will blossom.
In
Australia, we have suffered the tall poppy syndrome for too long.
That old syndrome that says if someone is doing well and standing up and
out of the crowd, we had better chop their head off (take the head off
the tall poppy!) and put them down. Because we wouldn't want them
getting too big for their boots now would we?
The
damage was done because we couldn't allow ourself to do big things,
better things or great things because we risk losing our head.
The
tall poppy syndrome came about because in Australia in the early convict
settlement days, if you stood out from the rest, it wasn't a good thing
and brought trouble and despair to all concerned. BUT THOSE DAYS
ARE GONE NOW, and it is time to say it is OK, it is GOOD, it is GREAT to
excel and shine and stand out.
So
praise yourself, and love yourself (give yourself a kiss) and approve of
yourself for even the minor things, and especially the major
achievements. You will then stand out in your own mind and that's
where you are most important.
Master's
Wisdom!

"I
love winter, I get to snuggle up and
get lots of pats for no reason at all than I am loved."
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