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Control
Issues?
©
Narelle Stratford 2009
My
clients are intelligent people and often highly intellectual. They
like to rationalise their behaviour, their thoughts, and actions, and
want to rationalise their emotions away too. Oh how simple life
would be if you didn't have feelings!!
And
feelings we do have in abundance, and of course, they are not
necessarily positive and optimistic feelings for ourself or our future
or loved ones.
And
if you have a need to be right (or as one of my clients pointed out, "it is not so much that I want to be right, I just don't
want to be wrong"), or better yet, in control of....
well, everything, then life would be so much easier, wouldn't it?
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If
people would just do what you want them to do...
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If
the lights would just be green every time you drove...
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If
those other drivers would just drive properly...
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If
the kids would stop making so much noise... why do they have
to be so happy?
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If
you could turn off the voice in your head...
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If
you could control those circumstances that say your love may be out
of the country for a while...
The
funny thing is that the moment you stop trying to control everything and
everyone around you, you will actually be free! Yes, you will feel
free.
While
you have been trying so hard to stay in control and control all, you
have been expending enormous amounts of energy holding yourself
together, to stop yourself from exploding. You can only do this
for so long and then a meltdown is likely to occur because you run out
of energy and exhaust yourself.
It
is an illusion to think you can control everything and everyone because
the only person whom you can control is you. There are no external
events or people whom you can control. You can guide, advise,
request and envision positive events and you cannot control them.
If
control issues are your thing, and you even want to control your therapy
session because you think you know how to do it better! (smile!) then let go, let yourself
trust the person you are working with, and feel free.
So,
if you want a feeling of being in control, then control yourself and
feel the freedom of letting go now. Laugh, and enjoy the paradox!
Need
help with this? Please do call and make an appointment.
Control issues can be deadly in relationships whether personal or
business.
Master's
Wisdom!
"I'm
in control
and I love it"
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