Inner
Child Therapy
by
Narelle Stratford
Your
Inner Child (also referred to as your subconscious mind) can be your
best friend and your worst enemy. Like any child though, the more
you mistreat your own inner child the less rapport you have within, and
the more divided you will become. this means that your inner child
will be unco-operative, and you may feel in conflict over things be they
small or large.
For
example, you give yourself permission to take time out, and you do and
you enjoy it. Then, some time later maybe next week, you know you
have to get some work done after hours and you resist staying back late,
or doing housework in the early morning or after work, because you know
you deserve time out.
What's
happened is that the sub-parts in charge of time out and completing
work, are now sub-parts that are in conflict. When conflict occurs,
nothing gets done without a struggle or it may not get done at all.
I
think I created a sub-part that says, "Yoga and stretches are all
you need for exercise requirements" and now that I have begun Boot camp
training I have a sub-part that's rebelling like crazy and is
certainly causing injuries. So, I have been doing a lot of work on
myself and clearing madly to get this sub-part on side. It's in
conflict with the part that says "I love being fit and
healthy" so parts integration is required.
Words
have so much power over our Inner Child because words paint pictures
that our child treats as real. Everything is real for your Inner
Child. That scary movie that you were frightened in, and yet told
yourself not to be so stupid? That was your Inner Child responding as if
the movie was real.
Logic
makes no difference at this time, and neither does your ego because this
is a little child who is finding the movie scary. As about 1/6th
of the brain's resources are devoted to the conscious, logical mind and
roughly 5/6th's is devoted to the subconscious, the subconscious is
always going to win over logic because it runs your emotions and your
imagination.
It
is your ego that beats you up and criticizes you when you make mistakes
because you are not living up to the ego's image of itself, i.e.
yourself.
Sub-parts
may also be supportive and encouraging and it depends on how much you
have loved, accepted, praised, validated and supported yourself as to
how co-operative your Inner Child as a whole, is going to be.
There
are definitely parts we can do without, and parts that we can develop
more, as well as working with the overall Master of your subconscious
mind, on a one-to-one basis.
The
more that you are firm, loving, and speaking often to your Inner Child,
the more your Inner Child will respond positively to change old
behaviours and please you.
The
more that you neglect your Inner Child and leave your child alone all
day every day, the more likely it is that your Inner Child will
demonstrate destructive habits and refuse to change old patterns of
behaviour. You have ample opportunities to speak with your child,
everytime you notice you are hungry or tired, or excited or unhappy or
angry or peaceful or enjoying yourself, this is an opportunity to
acknowledge your Inner Child and really be a lovely friend to yourself.
If
you need more information, or would like to actually meet your Inner
Child and build a sound, loving rapport, and get well, then do give me a
call.
Master's
Wisdom!
"Even
I am on a diet...."
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