Coping With Change
March 2012
- Coping With Change
- Master’s Wisdom
- Interesting News Bites
- Obesity in 6 month old babies from environmental toxins
- Homeopathy endorsed by Swiss Government after incredibly thorough investigation and trials.
- Fear of Change (Clicking this link will take you off site, and any purchases made will result in a commission paid to Narelle Stratford. As with any purchase, do your due diligence first.)
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Dear Reader
THANKS EVERYONE
Thanks to all of you who were so understanding of my move, and so supportive of this change in my life, and for my clients, this change in your life as well. I am so grateful for the honour that you do me in letting me work with you and I wish each and every one of you only the best that life has to offer. Keep going, keep working on yourself, keep taking care of you and loving and approving of yourself. You are worth it.
Given that I am working in Adelaide for the next few months, I thought it only appropriate that I focus this edition on Coping With Change.
I love Adelaide, it is a gorgeous city, and the surrounding countryside is magnificent. So far, it’s been a bit like Melbourne on occasion, with 4 seasons in one day, so you learn to be prepared.
It’s such a pretty city with churches and historic buildings, trams and culture, so there is lots to do.
Fuel is over the $1.50 mark, and the cost of living is still high.
I am getting out and about to have a look around while I am here, so it is not all work.
Take care of you, and Live Life 2 The Max!
Regards
Narelle
Coping With Change
What a whirlwind and a shock! From the day I decided to definitely close the office, to the day I flew out of Brisbane to a new role, was barely 10 days! Can you imagine that?
This is exhausting just reading about everything that had to be done, so you can imagine what it was like compiling this list. I had to contact ongoing clients and sadly explain myself, pack everything from the office, sell items no longer required through posting ads and photos on Gumtree, organise the removalists to do a pick up and two drop-offs, cancel the phone and internet and bank, arrange pickup of things, organise the cleaning of the office, and carpet cleaning and blind cleaning, go and visit my beautiful daughter and her husband and my gorgeous grandsons, arrange the mail, and make sure the new house-mate at home was up to date with everything, pack, and say goodbye to my beautiful cat. Feeling tired yet?
Oh, and there was a bit of a get-together on the Saturday night to organise, however I made that as easy as could be.
Coping Strategies
So, how did I cope? What did I do to get through these sudden changes?
Firstly, self-care. I noticed that if I went too long without eating regularly, I began to stress, so this was very important. Of course, include water intake there as well. Did I feel stressed, you bet!
Tears of Intention
In fact, I cried a lot on Friday afternoon the 10th February and I simply acknowledged that this was an emotional, painful and necessary decision to make, that crying with the intention to release my emotions was okay, and that these feelings would pass and I was okay even though I was taking this step.
Because it was a BIGGGGGGG step in another direction. Like climbing stairs, one step at a time, so I visualised it all working out and coming together.
Fear of Change
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Brain-dump
I jotted down everything I needed to do before I went to bed each night, so that I did a brain-dump. No point mulling it over in bed, because it’s not getting it done and it wasn’t the time to do it. That way, I could tackle the list in the morning and get great satisfaction from ticking things off. Sleep was very important and most nights I slept well, but on occasion I didn’t. I knew this was just a reaction to the stress of it all and didn’t stress about either the quality or quantity of sleep. I knew that I would sleep well again once everything was done.
I also didn’t stress if everything wasn’t done on the first day. I knew it would take time and that some things had to work around other things. For example, I wanted to visit my daughter on Thursday but that couldn’t come about as the removalists would have had to pick up Wednesday afternoon and I needed my chairs on Wednesday afternoon!
Be Flexible
So, I was flexible in my thinking and adjusted my attitude to cope. And had a beautiful stay overnight on Friday instead. As it turned out, I would not have been finished packing on Wednesday for them to get everything loaded any way.
Accept Help
It was marvellous to have friends who offered to do things. My good friend Jennifer was en route to Ballina and had about a 4 hour stop-over before catching the bus, so she gave me a hand. Never feel too proud to ask for help either, as people will help you when you ask. My son was a big help as well and even did things after I left.
Be Systematic and Organised
When packing, be systematic. Go through and pack the kitchen things, the books, the accessories and so-on and mark what’s in the box for later! Make sure you use smaller boxes for books because they weigh a ton!
My priority was my clients and I spent most of Saturday on the phone, and still didn’t manage to speak to everyone which was upsetting to have to leave a message about what was happening. After that, an email was sent to everyone. Gradually, by the end of the week, it all came together.
Some things were done after I left, such as cleaning, and others got done along the way.
Get organised
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Thank You Friends and Family
Thanks go to my friends who came over on the Saturday night because as they walked in the door, I said ‘Lovely to see you, thank you for coming, there are the glasses, the fridge, the plastic plates, and I am not doing anything!’ because by that time I was pretty tired.
So, it is okay to acknowledge that your energy is getting low, and to help yourself to cope by taking a rest when you can.
It took me about 2 weeks to recover from the shock of the change because it was so swift, and then I was okay. During that two weeks I went to bed as early as possible, ate well, drank lots of water, exercised when I could and meditated with lots of deep breathing. By the third week I was back on top.
Stages of Loss and Grief
You might have noticed some responses in there such as shock, sadness, acceptance of my decision, teariness? This mirrors fairly closely what can happen when we have a sudden loss. there may be shock at what has happened; denial – this can’t be happening to me, or, this can’t have happened; bargaining – if I do this it will change it won’t it?; sadness and grief and tears; anger; and finally acceptance.
Acceptance of the situation, acceptance of what is, and letting go of judgement eventually occur if that is your intention. This range of emotions is completely normal and can happen in 5 minutes or may take days.
Change is Good
Has it been a good move? Yes, absolutely. Who knows what will come our way in this life and being able to adapt to change is a skill set that is fundamentally assisted by having healthy living structures in place.
May you greet change in your life as something to learn and grow from, to help you to be the person you want to be and see in the world.
Last month, I wrote about “Trouble with The Head” and I am wondering whether you could relate to this story? Send me an email, let me know, I love hearing from you.
Master’s Wisdom
“Where’s My Mum gone?
I’m going to visit the neighbours lots while she’s away to take my mind off it.”
Interesting News Bites
1. Obese 6 mth old babies – the sugar dilemma
Mark Hyman, MD, writes for the Huffington Post on the obesity epidemic in 6 month old babies from environmental toxins which have been proven to lead to weight gain and imbalanced blood sugar. Watch the video for yourself by clicking the link above.
2. Swiss Government Endorses Homeopathic Medicine
In late 2011, the Swiss government’s report on homeopathic medicine represents the most comprehensive evaluation of homeopathic medicine ever written by a government and was just published in book form in English (Bornhoft and Matthiessen, 2011).
This breakthrough report affirmed that homeopathic treatment is both effective and cost-effective and that homeopathic treatment should be reimbursed by Switzerland’s national health insurance program.” (Huffington Post)
Lots of trials were done and the results indicated that side effects were either non-existent or minimal compared to a drug counterpart. Read or watch the video for yourself by clicking the link above.
And that’s it for this month! Remember to click on Leave a Comment above, or fill in Speak Your Mind at the end of the post, down below. Love to hear from you and Live Life 2 The Max!
